It’s hard being a writer. It’s hard working on your own full stop, be you a writer, artist, blogger or whatever.
It’s a lonely business and it takes a lot of fortitude when you face criticism, rejection or lack of interest, even if that can sometimes be a learning process in itself.
So many of us, especially creative women, give so much of ourselves, rushing about writing, looking after the kids, taking care of our friends and sometimes we forget to nurture ourselves.
I got so bad at this recently that self care had completely fallen off the list of things to do. When I stopped to ask myself what I could do to make myself feel happy and nurtured I actually drew a complete blank I was that out of practise.
That’s why I found it really nice to attend my friend Estelle Keribin-Connolly’s ‘The Genuine You’ presentation on the Psychology of eating the other day. I don’t feed myself properly when I’m writing. Sometimes I don’t eat at all or survive only on chocolate biscuits and tea. I’ve lost count of the number of cups of tea that have gone cold, so I was looking forward to this!
First of all, she did a really nice meditation that got us all relaxed and then gave a brief talk about self nurture, binge eating and the psychology of eating. It certainly gave me some food for thought! She does coaching and mentoring and I’d recommend her highly!
When she spoke about nourishing yourself, it was a light bulb moment. I realised that you can’t be creative consistently unless you have nourishment, not just for your body, but also your mind. She talked about nourishing your mind with relaxation and inspiring activities. How can you keep the good creative juices flowing if you haven’t nourished your mind with these?
This reminded me of Julia Cameron’s idea of filling the well. I wrote about Julia Cameron’s great book ‘The Artist’s Way’ before on this blog. She talks about creativity as a well of inspiration, your subconscious, that needs refilling from time to time so that you can continue to be creative without burning out.
There’s another great article here about avoiding burn out as a writer courtesy of Anne Leigh Parrish on the Women Writers, Women’s Books Site.
Estelle practises a whole self approach – her psychology of eating is about improving your relationship with food as well as yourself, in order to become your best self.
Her Facebook page is below.